why SJ is appealing (a more depressing stance)

• Their friendships look ideal when all you had were broken relationships and friendship and they are men (women are more relational -stereotypes) and I give kudos to the boys (see some of the letters they wrote to each other, shows Intimate Note and etc.)
• to see how such community exists (even though it's a secular although about 80 something percent of them are Christians.)
• they make me happy when i am sad (besides other things that make me happy -family &friends)
  

maybe will continue (edit) this post later.... but gotta do more on my take home midterm!